Ephesians 5, The Submission of Relationship
We have before us today one of the most abused texts concerning marriage and women’s position in the household – We seek here to be able to pry open the blind eyes of both husbands and wives that they may see a little bit – and perhaps graciously afford some much needed change.
Ephesians 5:21 Submitting (Upo-Tasso-Menoi [First we need to note that this word is in “Present Tense” which denote that the action here is “Continual” as in: “From this time forth,” So that Paul is speaking here to the Ephesians of change within how they are enacting the submission of a wife to a husband] And we will add here that this word is in the “Masculine” gender so that Paul here is addressing husbands. Upo [Nominative] Is an agreeing to, or willingly putting oneself under another, Tasso To arrange oneself to, To devote oneself to, To make someone your pursuit, To dispose oneself to another [This is a dispossessing in order to gain] – Menoi-Meno While the Greek Lexicon defines this as “To Abide" or "To Dwell" or “To Lodge” The word Meno is “This word is much more for it is “An Abiding” where one comes under the rule, or influence, of whom one abides with.
Here Paul defines marriage as being a Upo-Tasso relationship in which you continually subordinate yourself, by putting your partner above yourself, devoting yourself to them [rather than being to object of devotion] so that they are your pursuit, [rather than making yourself the pursuit] and this is done here by a husband walking in his Meno authority, rule, or influence over the other, -- As Christ walked in his Meno over the Apostles fir 3.7 years.)
Philippians 2:5-8 Let this mind be in you, which was also in Christ Jesus: Who, --(This was the Meno of Him) making himself of no reputation, and --(This was the Meno of Him) taking upon him the form of a servant, and was made in the likeness of men: And being found in fashion as a man, --(And this was the Meno of Him) He humbling himself, and becoming obedient unto death, even the death of the cross. (For the love that was set before Him, even the Church. So is the true meno of a husband for a wife.)
Paul begins here by stating that this Upo-Tasso-Meno of a “Submission of humility” is to be first partaken by the husband unto wife before this is ever to take place with the wife unto husband.
The Upo-Tasso-Meno Paul speaks of here is one of being Christ like – Where are the passages where Christ demands a forced submission unto himself? Where are the passages that Christ demands and threatens obedience of his disciples? The most definitive verse on the subject of relations between him and the church is where Christ said: I have come not to be served, but to serve. Years ago there were many articles on servant-hood and humility this has faded as arrogance in many areas of the church has been declared to be spiritual, and nowhere has this un-Christ-like arrogance been more felt than in the Christian household. There is a war throughout the church between men forcibly seeking for their wives to submit unto them and in feminized wives forcibly seeking for their husbands to submit unto them.
Proverbs 14:1 Every wise woman (In this case every Upo-Tasso-Meno husband) buildeth her (his) house: but the foolish (Fool of a husband) plucketh (Greek: Kate-Skaphe – Kate a descending or downward motion Skapto To dig or excavate) it down with her (Hands) hands. (Greek: Che-R-Sin, Che-Cheilos- Lips, R-Reo A running sore, or A morbid flux, Sin-Sun With or Accompanied with)
This is the tearing down of one’s household with the running sore of one’s tongue. It is the railings, and revilings of forced submission either by a husband or wife.
Mark 12:1-2 And He (Christ) began to speak unto them by parables. A certain man planted a vineyard, and set an hedge about it, and digged a place for the winefat, and built a tower, and let it out to husbandmen, and went into a far country. And at the season he sent to the husbandmen a servant, that He might receive from the husbandmen of the fruit of the vineyard. (The truth is that the household that a husband has is not his own but the Lord’s, the household the husband has been entrusted to him by Christ. And the Lord lets the man run this household as he wills however the Lord comes periodically to received of the Husband man the fruit that is due Him And if the Lord finds that this husband has been abusing his position and privilege by verbally and or physically abusing the Wife and Children this man has been entrusted with --) Verse 9 What shall therefore the Lord of the vineyard do? He will come and destroy the husbandmen, and will give the vineyard unto others. This occurred in Scripture with Abigail who had a husband of belial from whom she had not children and God destroyed her husband and gave his household unto David.
We want to point out here as we have spoken of elsewhere Christ walked in all that He spoke first – before He preached it unto His disciples and others. Here clearly Paul is declaring that husbands need to walk in Upo-Tasso-Meno before they preach it to others, even the others of their own household.
Ephesians 5:21 (Husbands) Submitting (Upo-Tasso-Meno) yourselves one to another (To their wives) in the fear of God. (This is a fear of God’s judgment as the severest judgment falls upon any high-priest who would pervert His office of teaching of the word of God by either word or action in the household of God.)
We need to see clearly that the Upo-Tasso that Paul is speaking to wives in verse 22 is different than he spoke to husbands in verse 21.
Ephesians 5:22 Wives, submit ( Upo-Tass-Esth-E, Upo- [Nominative] Agreeing To or To willingly put oneself under another, Tasso To arrange oneself to, to devote oneself to, to make someone your pursuit, to dispose oneself to another [This is a dispossessing in order to gain] – Esth-Estho – To Eat or To drink To Feast or to Banquet [However this particle word is Masculine which denotes that this is a feeding of the male, E-Eu Joyously. Paul here declares wives need to also Upo-Tasso continually, that is to subordinate yourself, by putting your partner above yourself, devoting yourself to them [rather than being to object of devotion] so that they are your pursuit, [rather than making yourself the pursuit] , Paul also speaks that this relationship is a Eu-Estho one, One in which the wife joyfully and joyously feeds and gives drink to her husband and makes herself a joyous feast and banquet unto him.
Proverbs 8:30 Then I was by him, as one brought up with him: and I was daily his delight, rejoicing always before him.
Prov 5:15,18 (Here is this eating and drinking and feasting
Drink waters out of thine
own cistern, and running waters out of thine
own well. -- Let thy fountain be blessed: and (Continually) rejoice with
the (Joyous and joyful) wife of thy youth.
The marital bed is the Holy of Holies in marriage. When the marriage is no longer is Eu-Estho there the marriage withers and eventually dies.
I am not writing to small children each of you know how Paul again and again and again compares the relationship of Christ and the church to the husband and his wife.
Holy Communion is supposed to be one of the most intimate experiences that we can have with Christ upon earth
When Holy Communion is abused, misused, or disused, Paul declares:
1 Corinthians 11:29-30 For he that eateth and drinketh unworthily, eateth and drinketh damnation to himself, not discerning the Lord's body. For this cause many are weak and sickly among you, and many sleep. (This is the result of the withering away of the joy that God gave unto the sons of men.)
Weakness, Sickness and Death (Both physically and spiritually) is the result of forced submission in the household whether is from an abusive husband or a feminized wife the results are the same -- the sundering of the household and God withholding the husbands and wife’s prayers.
True submission is a placing one’s self under one’s husband exactly as we would do with Christ and thereby are we joined unto Christ as His sheep and His disciple. likewise a wife is to do so join herself to her husband.
Ephesians 5:22 Wives, submit ( Upo-Tass-Esth-E) yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.
In noting the difference between the words that Paul using between the husbands and the wives, we find that the wives are also Upo-Meno-ing their husbands
Psalm 37:7 (Septuagint) They that wait upon Upo-Meno the Lord (Their Husband as Sarah who called her husband Lord) shall inherit the land. (This inheriting of the land involves obedience to the first commandment that God gave to man – Commandment 00001 To be fruitful and multiply.)
to further possess the land after Moses and Joshua departed the Households
Many cry out for spiritual gifts and operations and to be used of God -- while all the time they despise the gifts and calling that God has given unto them in marriage and therefore Ye have not because ye ask amiss. And as Christ taught in the Lord’s Prayer: Forgive US as WE forgive those who trespass against US. As YOU have not forgiven the one the Lord has given unto YOU, You can not receive any forgiveness or healing or deliverance from the Lord.
1 Peter 3:7 Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them (Your wives) according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.
In Ephesians 5:21-22 Paul in using the word Upo-Tasso is citing the position that Adam had over his wife from the beginning. It is to be understood both in the New Testament and in the Old Testament as a statement of Adam being called to redeem the woman both in marriage and the bearing of children.
1 Timothy 2:15 Notwithstanding she shall be saved in childbearing, if they continue in faith and charity and holiness with sobriety. (Bible believing Christians as a whole are mystified by this verse and can not reconcile it with their man made doctrines of “Salvation” and “Justification by Faith” both of which ignore any commandments of God and Christ and declare that at men’s say so –the confession of their corrupt lips all the commandments of God and Christ are made null and void – and therefore this verse is lined out along with hundreds of other verses that don’t lines up with these men’s selective beliefs.)
Christ declared that all that was not fulfilled in the garden of Eden would be fulfilled by the church and in particular the church of the last days. This is why the enemy is preemptively seeking to destroy the household beginning in the early 1980’s as of 1995 evangelical believers now have 60% divorce rates –The enemy is seeking to get the church to abort itself. This must cease. The withering of the Joy of men needs to stop. Lest there shall be no flesh in the church left to save.
Ephesians 5:22 Wives, submit ( Upo-Tass-Esth-E) yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.
Paul in here is defining this redemption of women as not just Upo-tasso-ing their husbands but to this Paul adds Eu-Estho – this eating and drinking and feasting and banqueting [On the bed of Coite] is done to create the entity that Adam and Eve could not in the garden that is the container we know as the Household or the Household of Faith into which God shall pour his seed.
In the End time in Scripture it is declared that out of the Ek-Klesia shall come forth a new entity never before seek by men and that is the Ek-Lektos of Christ (The light-beams or outshining of Christ.)
Paul here is causing us to know that the Upo-Tasso he is speaking of to the wife is an entering into her husband’s fold, a created of household so that she might be redeemed in childbirth, and continue in that redemption under the Meno of her husband rule desire wishes and wants overseeing and training up their children to do likewise.
Psalm 47:3-4 He (My Husband) shall subdue Upo-Tasso the people (Household) under us, and the nations under our feet. -- He shall choose our inheritance (Fruitfulness and redemption) for us,
Psalm 62:1-2 Truly my soul waiteth Upo-Tasso upon God: (In this case my husband – Wives love your husbands as unto Christ.) from Him (My husband) cometh my salvation. (Through my being redeemed by marriage, childbirth etc.) He only is my rock and my salvation; he is my defence; I shall not be greatly moved. (From being Upo-Tasso-ed to Him)
Psalm 62:5-6 My soul, wait Upo-Tasso thou only upon God; (My Husband) for my expectation (Upo-Monos My release from the subjection of aloneness barrenness and fruitlessness) is from him. He only is my rock and my salvation: he is my defense; I shall not be moved. (From being Upo-Tasso-ed to Him)
Psalm 144:1-2 Blessed be the LORD (My husband) my strength which teacheth my hands to war, and my fingers to fight: My goodness, and my fortress; my high tower, and my deliverer; my shield, and he in whom I trust; who subdueth Upo-Tasso my people (Household) under me.
Paul here is not suggesting the “Godhood” of man, (Which we have an article on this site in which we speak expressly against) rather Paul is saying here that Christian husbands are taking the duties that were bestowed upon Adam from the beginning with his wife. Paul here is defining the ministry and calling of Marriage – which he declares mirrors the ministry and call of Christ and the Church.
Deuteronomy 6:10-12 And it shall be, when the LORD thy God shall have brought thee into the land (The household) which he sware unto thy fathers, to Abraham, to Isaac, and to Jacob, (That the Lord might) to give thee great and goodly cities, which thou buildedst not, And houses full of all good things, which thou filledst not, and wells digged, which thou diggedst not, vineyards and olive trees, which thou plantedst not; when thou shalt have eaten and be full; (This was the path the Church was supposed to walk in by obeying commandment 00001 –This was to be a discipline of the nations by they fruit of the womb) Then beware lest thou forget the LORD, which brought thee forth out of the land of Egypt, from the house of bondage. (The house of the serpent – to which the church made with hands has returned to for their sustenance.)
Deuteronomy 8:9-10 A land (Household) wherein thou shalt eat bread without scarceness, thou shalt not lack any thing in it. -- When thou hast eaten (Estho) and art full, then thou shalt bless the LORD thy God for the good land (Household) which he hath given thee
Ephesians 5:23-26 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is The Saviour of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing. Husbands, love (Agape in the Greek Septuagint is defined as a deep seated love from the seat of out desires. So that in the Greek Septuagint Agape is used both for our love of God and for sexual love between an man and his wife. So that here we might better render this as; Husbands be lovers of ) your wives, (As Isaac did Rebekah) (and) even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; (With all his heart soul mind and strength – Christ withheld nothing of himself from His bride the Church. He forsook all including his inheritance of the throne of David, all of the riches and kingdoms of this world. And instead he gave His very body to redeem her. And inso doing made her a direct partaker to all his heavenly riches and the gifts and operations of the Spirit. That He might sanctify (So like Christ a husband should seek to sanctify -- to redeem his wife in the fulfilling Commandment 00001) and (Thereby) cleanse it (her body) with the washing of water, by the word, (By the word that was spoken in the law and the prophets)
Paul citing here in “this washing by the word” you may ask?
In Scripture a part of this husband’s love of his wife, the seeing to her unhindered growth towards him, and the building of their household unto God.
And we will add here that as part of a husbands power as the household’s high priest, God has granted the Husband also certain rights and authority one power being that when his wife makes religious and secular vows or any pacts regarding him, their household and God or the world, he can annul these before God and men.
Numbers 30:3-4, 12-13 3 If a woman also vow a vow unto the LORD, and bind herself by a bond, being in her father's house in her youth; 4 And her father hear her vow, and her bond wherewith she hath bound her soul, and her father shall hold his peace at her; then all her vows shall stand, and every bond wherewith she hath bound her soul shall stand. 12But if her husband hath utterly made them void on the day he heard them; then whatsoever proceeded out of her lips concerning her vows, or concerning the bond of her soul, shall not stand: her husband hath made them void; and the LORD shall forgive her. 13Every vow, and every binding oath to afflict the soul, her husband may establish it, or her husband may make it void.
This is exactly what Christ as our bridegroom. When we ask amiss, and vow amiss, He breaks our vows and pacts and rebukes reproves and corrects us. And when we entrench ourselves in sin and selfishness not following him, he comes and saves us and delivers us and puts our feet back on the path or righteousness. And when we ask in sin, and we ask in unrighteousness, He does not grant our prayers and when He does so we repent and seek his face and so a wife is to do likewise unto her husband.
When the Pharisees came to Christ and complained how is it that He could say He could forgive sins, for only God could forgive sin. Christ responded whether it was easier for Him to say Rise up and walk or thy sins be forgiven.
It must be remembered that the Pharisees themselves could not heal and received no healing from Christ. And again and again and a gain Christ sent those that were healed to them and this over time was maddening to them because they in no way were going to submit and repent to the Messiah because the Messiah in their mind was to come out of their midst. So that if only this messiah would bow and submit to their authority and dictates then he would be have been accepted. – But this would have been only on a toleration basis, and as soon as he stopped making the Pharisees and their traditions and doctrines look good – that is to laud exalt and praise them before men they would have had to have taken Him out as all the prophets before Him. And we see this exact behavior from the corrupt Talmudized church throughout church history. Irregardless of church ministry or denomination when God’s Spirit falls on something apart for the Levies and Pharisees the Levites and Pharisees begin by sending their representatives in “To just keep and eye on things” and after a short while they well attempt to wine and dine and buy out who they can offering them prestigious and notoriety if they would just allow them some say in the proceedings.
This is the very reason why Abraham had to leave his father and
And certainly in the Church of this hour, no church, no denomination, no ministry and no pastor or no teacher want to relinquish any of their self-perceived self-appointed rights and privileges to any one apart from one of their own self-anointed – to some God chosen God anointed unindoctrinated outsider that will not bow the knee to their authority and dictates. So when God anoints, when God empowers, and when God moves outside of them the so that it can not be ignored – these churches denomination and ministries seen out first their emissaries, they attempt to wine and dine those whom God has anointed, and when that fails they use the full power of their vast resources to conduct full warfare and doctrinally attack, call into question if God was in this ever. To try to shake out all who could be shaken out, and once that has gone as far as that can and we have abundant evidence of all of this throughout the last 1800 years or so of church history They will go into final solution mode to exterminate and blot out all every anointed joint that makes this thing function.
And we can say the same thing here of these Christian Levites and Pharisees that all their evil, perverse, and self-serving have somehow to appear being Holy and Sanctified. Because Christian Levites and Pharisees can never afford to lose face before their bible believing constituents. And so likewise as their fathers the Levites and Pharisees at the time of Christ these resort to the dishonest redefinition of words, of creating out of whole cloth doctrines and far reaching edicts based upon tortured bits and pieces of bible verses they can cobble together, along with self-perceived, self-appointed, and self-anointed, traditions all of which aid them in what could not be righteously taught or proclaimed to help them gain, and consolidate, and hold power, over the common Jews. Hence is the term spoken of these in Revelation as The Nicolaitanes.” – For the Church belongs to Christ Alone. She is not theirs, and Christ Has never given His bride into these Christian Levites and Pharisees corrupt and filthy hands that they do her as they please and mar and defile her with spot and wrinkle.
So returning now to our main thought, in the Law of Moses Christ’s power to heal and forgive the sins of Jews is on the basis of Numbers Chapter 30. For the Daughter of Israel is Christ’s betrothed Bride and the Basis of which He can heal Gentiles is on the basis that all children all the seed belong to the Lord. And thus in the Church Christ as the head of that household is set in as the healer and one who can forgive their sins, and so also from the same passage in Numbers 30 When the husband who is truly ruling and by this we also mean rightly ruling over his household, He has the God given authority to release, to forgive and to heal all in His household that is his wife, his son, his daughters, his menservants his maidservants and even the stranger that dwells with him, and within this we see that the husband has also the power to forgive their sins as well.
1 Peter 3:7 Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them (Your wife) according to knowledge. Giving honour unto the (your) wife, as unto the weaker vessel, (Giving more honor to the weaker vessel – as defined in 1 Corinthians 12:21-23) and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.
Corinthians 12:21-23 And the eye cannot say unto the hand, (Peter declares that neither can the Husband can not say to
his wife nor even unto any of his household) I have no need of
thee: nor again the head to the feet, I have no need of you.
Nay, much more those members of the body, which seem (To our natural eye and our natural understanding) to be more feeble,
(Weaker vessels) are necessary (To God’s will and purposes in your life. The household is
Most Holy unto the Lord and if he is to dwell any place upon
earth with men, the household is the place where He will do so. In Scripture
salvation comes to households not buildings, and the Lord visitations
generally involve households. And we can see in scripture that it is
within households where God works on people’s lives with the greatest
depth and precision.) And those members
of the body, which we think to be less honourable,
upon these we bestow more abundant honour;
and (upon) our (more) uncomely parts
(we bestow upon them) have more abundant
Mark 10:42-45 But Jesus called them to him, and saith unto them, Ye know that they which are accounted to rule over the Gentiles exercise lordship over them; and their great ones exercise authority upon them. But so shall it not be among you: but whosoever will be great among you, shall be your minister: And whosoever of you will be the chiefest, shall be servant of all. For even the Son of man came not to be ministered unto, but to minister, and to give his life a ransom for many.
We know that when Christ spoke the following passage that he was applying it to His apostles and disciples regarding after his absence how they were to shepherd his flock. We know that this passage also carries within it a strong exhortation that the church is not view, think, or act in anyway superior to the unsaved and this goes especially in the Talmudic practice of created two sets of laws; a liberal set for Talmudic Jews, and a damning set for Gentiles and apostates. And despite that the teachers, preachers, and the church as a whole have disregard this with their own doctrines and traditions that allow them to rule with impunity and to justify what they wish to extract what they wish to exact from who ever they deem below them in the food chain. And this same Talmudic septic poison is in the Christian Marriage with bible thumpers beating and abusing whosoever they believe is below them in the food chain. The way this game is played is the Husband if he is to some degree recognized as “a man of God” He is in the drivers seat and his wife is to submit, “to heel like a dog” and if the husband does not walk with the Lord with any degree the Woman is in the drivers seat and her unregenerate or unspiritual husband is to heel like a dog.
Ephesians 5:27 That He might present it to Himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. (It is Christ and the husband that have the duty to present their wives and households before the Lord without spot and wrinkle Salvation as we have mentioned previously is not given to churches denominations or ministries but unto households, their children, their servants and the strangers that dwell with them and in the case of Abraham and the nameless selfless servant and the maidservants that dwelled in the tent of Sarah that instructed young Rebekah in the faith we see that Abraham was indeed faithful in all his house -- .)
Numbers 12:7 My servant Moses is not so, who is faithful in all mine house.
1 Samuel 2:35 And I will raise me up a faithful priest, that shall do according to that which is in mine heart and in my mind: and I will build him a sure house; and he shall walk before mine anointed for ever.
1 Samuel 22:14 Then Ahimelech answered the king, (Saul) and said, And who is so faithful among all thy servants as David, which is the king's son in law, and goeth at thy bidding, and is honourable in thine house?
Matthew 24:45 Who then is a faithful and wise servant, whom his lord hath made ruler over his household
Ephesians 5:28-29 So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. (This statement is in utter contradiction to the Talmud where a man cannot touch, wash deal with any infestations on himself anywhere below the waist and above his ankles – in church men and women are to cleanse and care for their bodies ) 29For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; (Except Talmudic Jews, Talmudic Christians, and Talmudic Islamists all hate their own bodies and all hate their women.) but (All Christians should) nourisheth (Greek Ek-trephei “Ek” out from and away from, “Trephei” - to nourish and to promote health and strength, – Hence Ek-trepei is a “separated” nourishing and bonding that is to occur between the husband and wife alone. The truth is that for most “spiritual” Christian woman they do most of their “nurturing and bonding” with their “Pastor” their “Teacher,” their “Song Leader” and their “Male and “Female Spiritual Peers.” And the Lord would say unto them that they have committed multiple and repeated adulteries. For as they can not and will not disciple themselves unto Christ and Christ alone but have become adulteresses discipling themselves to their many lovers that nurture and pamper them. So also they can not and will not disciple themselves unto their husband, and their husband alone but are adulteresses and disciple themselves to many other lovers that nurture and pamper them. and cherisheth (Greek Thalpai To impart warmth.)
Proverbs 26:20 (Septuagint) Where there is much wood there the imparting of passionate warmth (Greek Thalpai) becometh a fiery inferno, but where there is not (much wood) passion and living peaceably give way to disputes and fighting.
It would seem that from this passage that Paul declares: Agapeo seeketh not her own.
Paul now confirms that the word he used in the Greek for
is in the context of conjugal relations