Too Much Online Strains Irish Marriages

Jun 26 10:51 AM US/Eastern

Too much time unnecessarily spent apart strains marriages. Whether husband of wife each desires from their mate, from their lover, from their spouse to know that they are loved, cared for, and devoted to above all others. When sports, hunting, going out with the guys, going shopping, girls night out, and especially for born again and Spirit-filled Christians going to prayer meetings, bible studies, church services, and brunches and love those more than they love their husband or wife – this for their mate is very damaging and is not any kind of witness or service that is acceptable to the Lord for a married beleiver.

We have spoken of these things when they involve both men or women as emotional affairs – the place where you emotionally derive your pleasure, your strength, your joy, your peace your comfort. This is not to suggest that one’s husband or one’s wife should take the place of the Lord. Far from it this is a commandment given by Paul the Apostles in I Corinthians 7 Defraud not one another. And when one engages in emotional affairs or spending hours time online, or burried in books, or even burried in bible study materials so that you are not attending to your mate This is Defraudment that falls under the judgment of God. Going hunting or doing other things weekends can fall under the same thing Defraudment – Except it be for a short time and in agreement but after immediately return to your mate lovingly devotionally caringly sexually and make them the first one in your life.

It will revolutionize your marriage if you sincerely do so.

Too much time spent on the Internet is causing increasing friction between couples in Ireland, a marriage counselling service said Friday.

Some seven percent of couples seen by ACCORD, the Catholic Church's marriage care service, say too much time spent in cyberspace by one partner is their main problem, according to figures for the first half of this year.

John Farrelly, its director of counselling, said the problem had come virtually out of nowhere in the last three years.

The key areas causing conflict "are Internet gambling, infidelity and one partner spending too much time online rather than with their spouse and family," he said.

The statistics also highlight the increasing pressure of financial difficulties on couples in recession-hit Ireland.

In 2007, 20 percent of clients identified finances as a problem for their marriage and this rose to 31 percent in the first six months of this year.

"The recession continues to affect marriage and family, as people feel they are beginning to lose control of their lives," Farrelly said.

ACCORD, with 57 centres throughout the country, provides over 30,000 counselling sessions a year to couples.

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