Woman's Day/AOL Poll
Jan.
2 2007/PRNewswire
We should note here that Woman’s Day
Magazine that is situated along grocery store check out lines is a fairly
conservative family oriented magazine. So that those that would tend to read
this would tend to consider themselves to be middle of the road “denominational
Christians” as opposed to “Evangelicals” “Fundamentalists” Pentecostals and Charismatics”
the readership would also tend to be middle of the road or low on feminist
issues.
A majority of (56%) married women would reconsider
their marriage to their Spouses. 36% state they if could re-do their I -do they
would not marry their husbands and another 20% are not sure if given a second
chance on the choice of who they married are “not sure” that they would marry
them again.
A new poll(*) from Woman's Day magazine (womansday.com) and AOL.com finds over a third (36%)of married women would not marry their husbands if they had to do it all over again, with another 20% saying they weren't sure if they would or not.
The
poll, which surveyed over 3,000 American married women, provides insight into a
variety of issues, including flirting, infidelity, soul mates, bedtime habits,
honesty, jealousy and pop culture. (The full poll has not yet been released.)
In regard to marriage, the poll finds:
76% of married women keep secrets from their husbands. (These are not secrets for secrets sakes, but a variety of infidelities, that directly affect the relationship they have with their husbands and that compromise the household)
84% of all American wives say they would want to be
told if their husbands were cheating, with 49% of them stating they have
suspected or even caught their husband having an affair. (This is speaking both of emotional
affairs and sexual affairs)
On the flipside:
76%
of married women admit to fantasizing about a man other than their husband,
with 39% stating they flirt with other men constantly. (And a large
percentage of them engaging in serial emotional affairs, followed by those who
are involved in sexual affairs.)
A look inside the bedroom of married couples reveals:
33% of all wives sleep in the nude, while 32% stated they sleep on the opposite end of the bed away from their husband.
In related polls on the same website we find:
The response to these questions tend to be
kind of fickle – because the respondents flip back and forth between their
personal feelings and their fantasies.
We also see strongly in these responses the issue of women’s (Childhood)
fantasies and how they bleed into their marriage life. (Train up a child and
when they shall grow old they shall not depart from them)
What TV show is most like
your marriage?
(Here a whopping 80% stating that their marriages a bad.)
Survivor:
29% (They are just
enduring it)
The Simpsons: 26% (They view it as a cheap cartoon or parody)
Desperate Housewives: 25% (They are desperate for emotional affairs and sex where ever
they can find it.)
7th Heaven:
20% (They have found
satisfaction – more than likely if these were broken down by age the majority
of wives having found satisfaction would tend to be those married a year or
under or those married for 30 years or longer.)
If you were laid off from work today, what could
you afford to buy?
A villa
in
A used RV: 9%
A small condo: 15%
A pack of tissues to sob into: 68%
What's missing most from your relationship? (These are all aspects of fantasies from a Barbie doll upbringing. –
Otherwise called a princess complex or a prince complex)
Physical intimacy—holding hands, kissing:
35%
Conversation. He thinks
communication happens during halftime: 27% (This is not quite how it sounds. In
another survey question it is revealed what is sought here is a husband listening
to a wife talking without offering his opinions or advice.)
Time alone. We’re in desperate need
of a vacation—separate from the children: 22%
Nothing. I couldn’t ask for a more fulfilling relationship: 16%
You would rather marry a man who...?
Makes you laugh like Will Ferrell: 54%
Has more money than Bill Gates: 21%
Is mysterious like Robert DeNiro: 15%
Has washboard abs like Matthew McConaughey:
10%
How's your sex life? (The answers here are deceptive)
Are you kidding? It's nonexistent: 31% (This is not necessarily those who seek more
sex but are angry in some way at either their lack of sex or their inability to
find fulfillment in sex.)
Still hot and steamy!: 26% (This number is deceptive as in other
questions only 18 percent find real
wholeness or satisfaction in marriage.)
It's great, but doesn't compare to our first years together: 25% (This “it’s great” is not great it is
saying it is a shadow of what they once had.)
Sometimes I'd rather crawl in bed with a good book: 18% (This number is low because only the most
hard core would admit the reality of what they walk in as opposed to their
fantasies. Combined with the 25% that are dissatisfied and the 31 % that are angry – we see
that 74% admit to some degree that their marital bed is either dysfunctional, dying or dead.)
After a bad day, you'd
like him to...
Give me a hug: 54% (And make it all just go away)
Listen to
my problems—without trying to solve them: 21% (This is one sided Barbie doll conversation)
Offer to make dinner and put the kids to
bed: 18%
Fix me a drink: 7%
What Married Women Want: Which
would you rather have?
A winning $1 million lottery ticket: 61% (This
is something that involves independent control and authority apart from their husband.)
Mr. Right: 24% (Other than their
husband)
The most exciting career in the world: 10% (This
is something apart from their husband)
Love me, love my body
81% of you would choose to be married to
someone you love even if it meant being overweight (This closely reflects the number we said admit
some degree that their marriage bed is either dysfunctional dying or dead – and
it directly reflects the flip side number that report fining complete wholeness
or satisfaction in marriage.) This 81% are those who are married while not
being married
We asked what
your most desirable dream job was. Most of you wanted to write your way to the
top.
- Write a best-selling novel: 41% (This
is a deeply fantasy oriented answer with a strong indication of the number of
wives that have regard to romance novels and other things that appeal directly to
their personal fantasies.)
- Be a stay-at-home mom: 36% (This is largely
a “wanna be” response also)
- Be a TV anchorwoman: 14%
- Serve as president of the
If you could have one wish granted, what would
it be?
- Have a passionate love life: 33%
- Win $50,000: 32%
- Permanently lose 25 pounds: 24%
- Become a movie star: 11%
We asked what one thing would make your life
better.
- More money: 42%
- More time to spend with the people I love: 23%
- A more fulfilling marriage: 16%
- I wouldn’t change a thing: 12%
- A more rewarding job: 7%
What household chore would
you most like your husband to help with?
Just take out the trash!:
31%
Cooking. He makes a mean hamburger: 30%
Laundry. How hard is it to put a load in?: 23%
There's no way he can make the bed the way I
like it. I'd rather do it myself: 16%